is it okay to ask if someones kids are adopted?

Check out this well written post:

http://www.rageagainsttheminivan.com/2012/02/it-okay-to-ask-if-someones-kids-are.html

overheard:

"You can put your pacifier in, or you can put your fingers in your mouth and slow down. Those are your options Mama. Do you understand?"

Just for the record, this child has never used a pacifier...